PARENT IMPERFECT: A little-used tense that defies conjugation.
Among many other things, the Parent Imperfect is the father of two children, a son, Vince, age 18 and a daughter, Connie, age 13. After 14 years in the Boston Public Schools, the older of the two has moved on to attend a medium-sized (but not medium-priced) private college in upstate New York. Don’t ask me how that happened. Connie has just now begun ninth grade at Boston Latin School.
I now live with Connie and her mother (my wife), Liz, age…yes. The three of us are trying to figure out what kind of family we are now that Vince has taken his show on the road. We feel lucky to live in the diverse and fascinating Boston neighborhood of Roslindale, home to the best farmer’s market and the largest concentration of dogs in the city.
Parenting is the hardest thing I have ever done, and after most days I think of many things I should have done differently. As a result, I write about imperfect parenting when possible, mostly in secret journals that are burned upon completion. I have now been maintaining this best-kept secret in the blogosphere for over six years. The feedback I get–online and off–keeps me writing…and smiling. And by the way, the world is too weird for us to use our real names here, so I/we don’t do so.
Luckily, I’ve found a group of kindred souls in the local parent group, Quality Education for Every Student (QUEST). The opinions here are absolutely my own, but the parents in QUEST and other similar groups have certainly taught me much about schools and life.
I do go long periods of time without writing here. It’s not just that I’m lazy. Sometimes, so much is going on that I don’t quite know what to write here. If you’ve hit me in one of those times, don’t worry, I’ll be back.
- The Problem with the Imperfect Parent Narrative (wholeheartedspirit.net)
- The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting: Raising Children with Courage, Compassion, and Connection book downloads (etxejesi.wordpress.com)
- Imperfections. (thescarletbombblog.wordpress.com)
- Boston Mayoral Candidates on Early Education and the Achievement Gap (eyeonearlyeducation.com)